Love’s Foolsophy - Women against Feminism

I couldn’t say it any other way, so here’s quoting my friend:

 Psssh, honestly… I am so tired of these women that get so pissed off at men for wanting to have sex. Like APPARENTLY MEN DO NOT HAVE A GENETIC NEED TO PUT IT INSIDE OF WOMEN. Goddddd.

Buh buh! Porn harms women! Because uh… sex is something that women should use to make men feel inferior and also horrible about because men should feel like beasts for naturally wanting to have sex with you!

Porn cheapens the power of women, thus harms me! I need to make men feel like low-life scum for just existing because THEY can only have sex if I feel they deserve to!
Godddd… honestly though that is kind of how men felt before about sex. But at least when they felt women were inferior creatures they weren’t intimidated by them. Probably why old style stuff worked so well… even if you felt afraid you had sexual thoughts about women, they were inferior creatures anyway, so you didn’t have to care!

I am all for women being treated like people… but feminism is just being lame and needs to accept there are things men do that are different and it’s perfectly normal for a dude to have the desire to ram it up them as hard as possible and not feel like he is a low-life for doing so.

I seriously hate the way the way society thinks it is okay to punish duders for being sexual.It only wants to present this idea that the perfect dude is a guy who rolls over at any demand for his wife, has no desire for sexy, will give a girl 2000 presents, and die for her, and if he misses her birthday because he had to work, it is okay to cheat on him.

Yeah… because GIRLS DON’T REALLY EVER WANT SEX. Infact doing anything with a girl if you’re a guy means that you’re actually a rapist!

Moments before, he said to me

 But well… I’ve already decided I was going to make out with you based on how sexy-intelligent you are so I don’t really think that matters.

I should shut up about it, because it’s pretty much obvious I’m pressuring you to do that. Also UNCOMFORTABLENESS!!!

Heh, well I dunno. The idea just started runnin’ in my head, and I was all like, “Yeah, I so would want to do that with her…”

 I took it as a compliment.

Everytime I try to read a feminist blog, I am literally stunned. I sit here at my computer desk, with my trusty little carton of gummie bears beside me, and I sit there for a few moments completely and utterly stunned.

I hate to post about specific bloggers (I don’t want this to become a hate on site), but apparently a “Not a feminist, but..” girl has decided to post that children as young as 12 should be taught how to put on a condom.

Read it again.

Children. Taught how to have sex.

This disturbs me to the deepest bone of my body. I can understand 15 year olds, or even 14 year old. But goddamn 12 year olds?!

Grade 7 kids already know about sex: you can hardly avoid it given the current cultural climate, there are sexual images everywhere. Twelve year old kids do have sex. They need to know how to stay safe and respect each other, simple as that. Even if by some miracle 12 year olds do not know about sex, better that their ‘innocence’ (although it is only called innocence because we see sex as dirty) be shattered than risk other children developping STDs, AIDs and getting pregnant.

Not all parents are responsible, not all parents feel comfortable talking to their kids about sex, in fact a straw poll of my friends tells me that very few parents feel comfortable or give enough information. Would you really want to put children’s health at risk by placing all responsibilty upon parents rather than getting the state involved?

The UK has the highest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe: we have to stop stricking our fingers in our ears and banging on about kids’ innocence, religious objections and parental responsibility and sort this mess out.

I seriously didn’t know how to reply to that. I made up some half ass reply, but in all honesty; How am I supposed to reply to that?

She starts off with saying that we see sex is dirty, and therefor, we consider children innocent, but don’t we consider children innocent because we’ve protected them from the evils of the world? That children are incapable of comitting evil until they’ve been trained to?

So should we train children to see sex as just a regular ol’ act akin to eating and sleeping? What?

Not all parents are responsible? You gave birth to the goddamn child! You can’t raise them properly because you’re too uncomfortable? My dad was never comfortable with punishing me when I didn’t behave, but he did it anyways because that’s the sort of thing you have to do as a parent. You have to enable your child to be able to mature and grow up and be the best person they could possibly be. Being their friend or being “uncomfortable” doesn’t help them! We do these undesirable things so they will perform the “desirable” or the “right thing to do”; Which is to not disrespect your body. Children don’t even understand what sex is, so how can we teach them that? It’s like trying to teach someone how to do University math when they don’t even know what a cube is! Sometimes you have to do the undesirable to gain the desirable conditioning!

Sort this mess out?

Have the State step in ?

No, how bout we make people, such as the parents first and the community second, accountable for this?

Sex education is a joke. It teaches you nothing about the emotional or respect aspects; it merely shows you what the physical is. This is a *****, this is a *****, this is where babies come from. It doesn’t teach you that you shouldn’t whore yourself out, it doesn’t teach you to respect your body to the point where you would not harm it (STD’s, pregnancy, drunken one night stands). So how am I risking my health, and my future children’s health by telling them, from the only person they truly love or respect, how to be able to respect and express themselves sexually?

If there is a child crime problem, you don’t give children guns.

I have to go pound my head against a wall for a while now. The thought really upsets me.

Now, I’m not being a “woman hater”. I’m being quite truthful.

Never depend on a woman for something you think is important. Everyone will tell you that women have the most compassion, caring, and loving than men; but that’s simply untrue. It’s very rare you’ll find one you can depend on.

Most men (not boys) I’ve known? Would bend over backwards for you. The girls/women? They’d rather gossip about you.

Now, this is a personal story, but whatever.

I met my one friend through a mutual friend at my college. Everything was great. We’d hang out, cook together, I helped her clean her apartment a few times. I even took her out for supper on my limited budget (a few times I starved, but that’s fine with me).

On the other hand, she was the exact opposite of me. She had tonnes of money; she could go on ebay and buy whatever she wanted. I have to budget carefully so I can afford my art supplies and enough to eat for the next week. The most I can afford is a few drinks from the vending machine a week. 5-10$ for my personal stuff like coffee etc, 20$ for art supplies and 30$ for food. It works out.

I myself am a pretty social person. If someone I don’t even know is feeling down, I bend over backwards regardless. I’ve fed other people even when I can barely afford to scrap together breakfast because they’re depressed and need to be cheered up someway or another. Or I will walk with them to wherever they want to go; the mall, down to the grocery store, anywhere. Even if it cuts into getting my homework done and I have to pull half nighters to make up for it.

This girl is the exact opposite of me. She’s ditched me three days in a row because she was waiting for a phonecall from her boyfriend. She complained to me nonstop about how she slept with her new boytoy after a month of knowing him, and he fled for a week to “find himself”. After planning to get an apartment for the summer together, she ditches me yet again.

The worst part of all this?

She has yet to realize how it’s affecting anyone around her.

I’ve tried to tell her that it hurts pretty deeply to be cast aside like that, but does she really realize it?

Nope.

She just wishes that the three of us (her boyfriend, her and I) can go out like friends.

So you know what the Barenaked Ladies say?
“If you can do without, then do so”

Apparently feminists have “get out of jail free” cards for every occasion.

It’s either “just a joke”,  “not meant to be taken seriously”, or they twist every word to their whim to the point where you’re a “woman hater”. Or they just block you off their blogs so you can’t point out how absolutely inane it is for them to be spraypainting “Woman Hater” on porn store signs.

Of course not. They have the get out of jail free cards.

Mainly I’m talking about the old post concerning abirdsnest’s little comment off of Pandagon or whatever that site is called.

“It’s just a joke!”. Yes, and see, I’m going to walk into a “Black men against Racial discrimination” rally and start rallying with them! It doesn’t matter if I’m a white female because it’s just a joke!

Now, why don’t we look at how easy it is to take it seriously:

1) She owns a feminist blog

2) She posts on other feminist blogs

3) She posts about men exercising anger as the only way to express themselves

And after looking at that, does it really look like a joke? Especially as the entire thread is nothing but agreement with the original man hating post. It’d be like another black man going to that rally and pretending to agree with them as a joke. Not only do you paint yourself an absolute idiot, but you paint everyone else around you the same way too. Oops! I forgot, it was just a joke! Silly me.

So Excuuuuuse me princess if I couldn’t spell “feminism” correctly on the first few posts. I didn’t realize that you were resorting to scraping at the bottom of the barrel for insults. I thought feminists were more compassionate and understanding of others?

Excuuuuse me princess if I said “stupid” in one of my posts while you go on about “banging your head against the wall” when someone posts something to educate you on their views. I didn’t realize that a man expressing himself about a topic in a non violent way doesn’t deserve your attention.

Sidenote - The whole thing about Wimbledon is already blogged by tonnes of others, but my 2 cents? If women can’t keep up, then they shouldn’t be rewarded for performing less. Hell, if you want more people watching your games just strip down your underwear and get it over with if you’re that desperate for money.

(This is an extremely abstract type of post, so if you don’t follow that’s fine with me)

Everybody is born with a prison. Whether it be biological or social, we are all born with something that prevents us from succeeding in certain things. Had I not been born with good eye hand coordination and a photographic memory, I could never do art. Sadly, I can never do anything but art because of this. I even have a physical handicap of being born a woman, who possess less strength than men (and I’d like to have a nice figure, but not a body builder’s!), so I can never become a firefighter. These are my prisons.

The most crucial prison we are born with though, is the prison of lonliness. This is one prison we can try to hide from or escape; but it will never leave.

People do two things to try to escape; they either fill it up or bury it.

When they try to fill it up, they can get extreme and try to gorge on materialistic or emotional items. A woman who is a golddigger, a man who has uncontrollable gluttony with women, people who just cannot put their fork down after they feel their stomach bulge. These people cannot phantom the idea of facing this emptiness; it scares them, it makes them want to eat and consume more, devour everything so that this bottomless pit will someday be filled.

But it never will, because the desperation is what eventually consumes them; they can’t see past this self inflicted pain and face the now lesser of two evils; lonliness and worthlessness.

When people try to run from it, they do everything they can to distract themselves from it. They’ll consume drugs, they’ll blame others, they’ll scream and kick and cry and cower.  They’ll start movements to stop “hate crimes” because they’re afraid, they’ll OD on heroin to escape the real world, and they’ll be at the mercy of other people and be used as “doormats” because they don’t want to force people away from them and become even lonlier.

And the problem becomes; Do not trust anyone else, because they have never done anything with you in mind.

It becomes our mantra, that we hide ourselves because other people hurt us so badly that it feels like the emptiness in our chest becomes bigger and our throats become tighter. Why bother to hold out your hands to give charity to only have them bitten repeatedly? Either by scammers, friends, lovers, family, politicians, you name it. It even becomes a battle with others instead of a graceful waltz with little things like speech or hospitality. Eventually, you too are consumed with running from any sign of hate or discontempt. Some isolate themselves, other just “live with it”.

I sure as hell haven’t found out what the answer is to fixing this prison, or if it can even be fixed, but it’s worth a try to at least discuss it.

Only once in a while do I find a blog or someone’s personal beliefs that jars my brain and makes me think “Are people really that batshit insane?”

Unfortunately, I’ve found another one. Apparently this chick, the “Porn Detective”, takes pictures of men walking into porn shops. She makes rude comments such as I’d rather have this place burned down etc etc.

The funniest thing? Most of the guys in her pictures are either stunned that she’s taking a picture of them, or absolutely happy. Oh noes! A man is happy peacefully flipping through a porno magazine?! INSANITY!

Here’s an absolutely hilarious quote:

Well, Samantha - most people will be tired of talking to people with your views so I’ll do it this time - the porn industry hurts ME. Me personally. The existence of these magazines etc, whether the women in them like doing it or not, whether women buy and use them or not, their mere existence helps support a societal atmosphere in which I do not feel safe. I feel objectified and abused simply by virtue of being a woman in a world where women are looked at in that way. And the rape conviction rate statistics, amongst other evidence, support my view that I am unsafe. Okay? And if I meet a woman with views like yours, my problem is generally how to explain to them the issues without hurting their feelings. I reckon you must have some serious self-esteem issues (and other “stuff”) if you are happy for women to be viewed as objects to be bought for a few pounds, used for pleasure and then discarded. I don’t want to call you damaged, because that might just make you worse, and I want to help women. But there, I’ve said it. Whoops. Sorry. But don’t be too upset. I’m damaged too - this society makes it almost impossible for a woman not to be.

Okay I’ve bolded some of the really funny parts for you to read. Seriously? Is this for real? And to read all the comments on other blogs absolutely congradulating her on being an absolute prick.

Harrassment? Check

Tones of Man Hating? Check

Justifies it with “ME ME ME”? Check!

I’m thinking that this woman is much more damaged than poor Samantha ever will be. A woman who enjoys watching amateur porn? SHE’S DAMAGED AND CONFUSED AND WE WYMYN NEED TO HELP HER! And she’s getting away with slandering people and being an overall ASSHOLE because she’s a woman.

What if a man did this to women entering a sexshop? He’d be arrested and in jail for sexual assault within minutes. You want sexual assault? Lemme go blow *snerk* some money on some classy dildos and let’s play cops and robbers; I’ll be the bad cop and you can be the victim of police brutality. Civil disobedience is still disobedience!

If this is what you call feminism and the rights of women, then I’d rather be taking it up the ass in front of a camera then following your dogma.

This is just tempting me to do my own series of calender girl shots to spite them all; at least then there’d be some eyecandy amongst all this misyndry.

(ps- I apologize for the rude post, but this stuff is starting to really turn my crank the wrong way)

Has anybody really seen that video? If you haven’t, I’ve put up a link:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=CuWJJ3BG8kg

Done doing the timewarp? I’m all for the eighties, but that song makes me cringe. Now, the funny thing is, eversince I became anti-feminist I’ve noticed that this song does convey some very funny things.

1) The girl disrespects her parents immensely. Did you see that arm lock she puts her father in? If I had ever tried that with my father he’d whip me upside the head so fast I wouldn’t even have time to blink.  But I guess it’s cool to rebel and disrespect your parents, forgetting that they; gave birth to you, raised you, feed you, give you a place to sleep and genuinely care about you. (Including the part where they crush the poor guy under the faux wedding)

2) The part where they’re all talking on the phone. Did anyone else notice the major vanity and gluttony problems going on there? The one chick stuffing her face with cake and the other with a huge cup of coffee? The chicks patting through their hair like “Oh darling, I did get a retro 60’s haircut!” I know nobody wants to be “chained to the stove”, but seriously? Is that all women would do if given the chance to “have fun”? Talk on the phone like 13 year olds trying to be teenagers?

and lastly

3) The last scene where they’re all dancing they have a faux wedding? Seems like somebody’s making Marriage a big joke!

Of course, this is all silly thoughts. Maybe the editors and filmmakers didn’t mean to make it like that; it was just genuinely good fun. Or maybe looking back it’s a good indicator of how we act now. How many women do we know sit on the phone or internet for hours chatting with friends? How many women like to eat processed foods or don’t bake? What about the scene where they’re just partying and suddenly someone get’s married while crushing the poor father?

As they say, smart people tend to over analyize things, when really, we girls just wanna have fun.

A woman blogger who likes knitting and feminism linked to one of the comments in my blog said by rw-man. Of course, I tried to have a bit of a conversation with her about women. Of course, every old “Well saying you *heard* without linking to something isn’t GOOD ENOUGH” showed up once or twice in her conversation. And I laughed very hard when I found she made this comment here: http://pandagon.net/2007/02/17/drat-that-feminism-it-made-women-less-needy/#more-4752

“I was a college woman in a serious relationship once. I met my ex-girlfriend at the end of my freshman year, and we stayed together for nearly four years. And yet somehow I managed to pull a 3.7 GPA, and she managed to finish law school and pass the bar. Clearly, the danger is solely to heterosexual women, and the answer is mandatory lesbianism for all college-aged females.”

Who can really take anyone who writes such things seriously? The danger is solely to heterosexual women?

If that’s the case, then I think I’d rather work harder at having a relationship with a man than a friend with benefits with another bitchy, self centered woman. Besides, if she was worth the time of day, I certainly wouldn’t be hogging her from the hordes of lonely men.

It’s all about me me me! I am womyn and it’s MY SPECIAL DAY, along with valentines, easter, christmas, and I sure as hell will find a way to make Oktoberfest, the most manly of celebrations, mine! If I don’t get that 24 carat diamond encrusted cellphone cover I sure as hell aren’t sleeping with you, let alone even attempting to bake when I can barely mix up a pot of kraft dinner!

Just kidding folks. I’m going out for the weekend to party it up with some classmates for my birthday, so I won’t be able to post on my actual birthday (tomorrow).

I celebrated it mildly by doing a few things during the week already:

On thursday I bought my classmates a box of cookies since my poor toaster oven wouldn’t be able to churn out two dozen of them. I invited two classmates over to eat some tarts and cake while drinking tea and having a good time at night. And the funny thing is; I paid for all of it! Most of my classmates were laughing and asking “but aren’t we supposed to be giving you gifts?”

Being able to sit there and talk to somebody I genuininely care for over a cup of tea and some fruit tarts is much more enjoyable then recieving materialistic gifts. They’re nice, but they’re not as, I don’t know how to describe it, but filling.

So wish me a happy birthday, for tomorrow I turn 18! Luckily, I still have a few years before my best before date runs out.

Edit - Apparently I’m getting some fantastic presents this year! Feministscum has linked to the blog, so go check out his archives and have a good slice of wit with a side truthfulness.

Just some more thoughts on everyone’s favourite thoughts; Feminism.

I’m starting to believe that Feminism, once a movement so women could vote and be recognized as “persons” by the Canadian court, has become nothing more than an excuse or an acceptable mask.

It’s pretty much like the girl who has an eating disorder, so she goes vegan so people will accept her weight loss and phobias about food as something socially acceptable. If the same girl joined PeTA, she may become worthy of a straitjacket in the eyes of her friends, but there’s an entire network online and in many schools for their “beliefs” (I completely disagree with firebombing and making working animals extinct, by the way). In this way, they can do something destructive, yet feel they are doing “the right thing” because it’s something that many other people believe. Almost like when you figure a problem out on your own; it’s almost enlightment.

But that doesn’t mean you’ll get the *right* answer in the end, or even the *best* one.

When I talk about feminism in my blog, it’s usually about the main strain of feminism that’s changed to teaching men that they have done horrible things to women in the past; so the son should pay for the father’s sins. What those sins are, I’m not sure as I’ve grown up in a normal family in relatively normal towns. I’ve never had a problem with men in my life other than a few isolated incidents where it was quite evident that the man/boy was not quite all there. The worst abuse I’ve ever taken was from other women. Bullies, highschool gossip, fights, all of them were due to women. I don’t think I ever met a bully that was a male when I grew up.

And the worst part is, that when male’s fight, it’s not something overly hateful compared to females. Whenever there was a fight with guys in my schools, they would knock each other around for a while and get tired or too sore, and by the next few days they were either friends again or just didn’t talk to each other. With the girls, they’d try to disfigure each other’s faces, scratch at their eyes, pull on their hair. They’d gossip and spread rumours, and do nasty things like pass along naked photos of the girl to humiliate them. They got a guy to date this girl, and eventually get naked photos of her. He then betrayed her and handed them over to his real girlfriend who was the agressor.

Women by far are a much scarier thing to deal with then men.

And the problem is that the Feminism that I’m seeing is provoking more women to act this way. It’s acceptable for them to be physically violent if they “uncomfortable”. It’s acceptable and usually joked that it’s okay to kick a man where it hurts because they’re being a jerk. Or how bout that it’s acceptable to cheat on a man because he doesn’t “pay you enough attention”?

I don’t think feminism bred these things, but the people who took the old movement took it too far. They’re getting as bad as PeTA; I wouldn’t be surprised if they firebombed the first men’s shelter.